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Care partners at Hospice of Dayton and Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties go above and beyond to invest in each patient and consider his or her time with us to be a celebration of life. It’s our goal to help you cement your loved one’s legacy by embracing his or her life story and presenting it to others. Please, share your loved one’s life story with us today. We believe that illustrating life’s stories provides peace of mind for families while strengthening our community.  Contact 937-256-4490 ext. 4409 or fill out the form below to share your story today.

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Living With Loss During a Season of Celebrations

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Birthdays, anniversaries and holidays tend to be particularly challenging for the bereaved, painfully triggering memories and longings for times past. For many, Halloween has replaced Thanksgiving as the “kick-off” to an ever lengthening marathon of holiday preparations and activities. Even in the best of times the holiday season can tax physical, emotional, and financial resources.  It should come as no surprise when grieving people start to feel a sense of dread as they contemplate the first holidays after loss. Since withdrawing into a cave and hibernating with the bears until spring comes is not a practical option, the best strategy is to prepare and plan for the challenges the holiday season brings. holidaysstuff

Recognize your very human tendency to expect and predict the worst. In fact, most bereaved veterans of “first holidays” will tell you that although the holiday itself presented them with some painful moments, their anticipation was much worse than the experience.

Seek out structured opportunities to acknowledge your loss and honor the memory of your loved one.  Participation in remembrance events such as the Hospice of Dayton’s  Remembrance Walk and the Hope for the Holidays program, or one of the many advocacy  group sponsored events such as Walk for the Cure, Walk to Defeat ALS can serve as  meaningful opportunities for healing.

Involve other family members in planning for the holidays. A family conference can be an effective forum that encourages the renegotiation of holiday plans and individual responsibilities based on input from everyone.

Scale back or eliminate—decorating, shopping, baking, cards, social obligations. Even in the best of years we often find ourselves exhausted by trying to “do it all’; when grief is part of the mix, it becomes clear that “doing it all” is more than impossible.

Consider altering, rather than discarding, important family traditions. While it might be too painful this year to gather around the dining room table for the “traditional” home-cooked dinner, a buffet meal that everyone contributes to, or dinner out at a restaurant, may be preferable alternatives.

Create new rituals that incorporate your loved one’s memory into the holiday.  Flameless candles that “burn” throughout the season, lighting a memorial candle at mealtime, decorating the gravesite with seasonal flowers or other items are all examples of small, but meaningful,  rituals that acknowledge our continuing bonds.

The custom of holiday gift giving is often a painful reminder of the gifts and people we are no longer shopping for.  Many find that intentional gifts to lonely shut-ins, residents in nursing homes, or individuals/families with material needs can be a meaningful way of honoring deceased loved ones.

Intentional “random acts of kindness” during the holiday season can be highly therapeutic.  A larger than normal tip for the waiter or waitress, paying the bill for an unsuspecting diner, leaving change in a vending machine, leaving a book in a waiting room or bus station with a note to enjoy, sending an anonymous gift to someone you know, offering a kind word to a frazzled mother… the opportunities to look outside ourselves are limitless.

Nurture yourself. Take a nap, sleep in, soak in the tub, or get a massage.

Ask yourself this question- “If I knew that this holiday season were to be the last one that I would have with my remaining loved ones, how would I spend it?”  Loss teaches us that the moments we are granted in life are incredibly fleeting and valuable.

Seek out additional support. Attending a grief support group or talking to a grief counselor can be of immeasurable help in meeting the challenges of navigating the holiday season.

Hospice of Dayton Earns NIJH Accreditation

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Hospice of Dayton is now included in a select group of 60 hospices nationwide after earning accreditation with the National Institute for Jewish Hospice (NIJH). The accreditation links Hospice of Dayton with NIJH which provides staff training and insights on treating Jewish patients who are terminally ill, and access to resources and education about Jewish custom and practice that may arise while caring for a hospice patient who is Jewish.

 

According to Hospice of Dayton’s Team Leader for Chaplain Services, Gayle Simmons, “The training and resources available through NIJH enables our interdisciplinary teams to provide specialized care to patients of the Jewish faith who are at the end of their life,” says Simmons. “We can now offer appropriate emotional and spiritual support to our patients and their families as they go through this most difficult journey.”

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Six Needs Of Mourning For Children Who Are Grieving

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BY MARY GAMAGE MSW, LSW

Hospice_3_1_13-66Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D discusses mourning needs for children who have suffered a significant loss.  These mourning needs can help children heal through their journey of grief.

Need 1:  Accept the Death

The first mourning need is to accept the death.  It’s difficult for any child to accept that their loved one is gone and their life will be forever changed.  Children may try to imagine that the loss never really happened; this is okay and perfectly normal. Eventually, with time and support from trusting adults in their life, children will learn to accept this difficult loss.

Need 2:  Feel the Sadness

The second mourning need of the child is the need to feel the sadness.  Children do not have to feel sad all the time because quite frankly, it isn’t very much fun to feel sad.  We need to allow and encourage children to have fun and let them feel good!  As caring adults, we need to make ourselves available to children when they do have their sad moments.

Need 3:  Remember the Person

The third mourning need is to remember the person who died.  As adults, we need to encourage children to talk about the person who died, share memories, and look at pictures.

Need 4:  Accept that Life is Different Now

The fourth mourning need has to do with helping children accept that their life is different now.  Their life has changed and so has their family.  Their life will never be the same again, but that doesn’t mean that they will never be happy again.

Need 5:  Think About why it Happened:

The fifth mourning need encourages children to think about why this loss happened.  This is a very difficult question to answer, especially for a child.  Talking to a trusted adult about the “why’s” in life can help a child “make sense” of their loss.

Need 6:  Allow Others to Help the Child:

The sixth mourning need has to do with allowing others to help the child who has suffered a loss:  now and always!  It’s important for children to have adults in their life that they can trust and who are always there for them, no matter what.  The process of grief is hard work; that is why it’s important to have people who are supportive to help us through it.  We need to let children know that it is okay to ask for help.

Mission Report

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Click here to view the Mission Report. To download a pdf, click here

Hospice of Dayton’s Wilmington Avenue campus is located on 22 acres of beautiful, historic land that curves around two scenic ponds. The grounds and gardens are designed to provide serenity and comfort to patients and their families during every season of the year.

COMMUNITY SUPPORT ENSURES BEST QUALITY OF LIFE FOR ALL WHO SEEK OUR AID

Brenda Humfleet
President, Hospice of Dayton Foundation

Through the generosity of the human spirit, exemplified by gifts of time and money, caring individuals in this
community have helped to transform the end-of-life experience for more than 5,000 patients, their families,
their loved ones and those in need of grief education and support.

During 2012, more than 770 volunteers’ gifts of time and service improved the quality of life for our patients.
Hospice of Dayton volunteers enrich the lives of patients and their families by contributing their unique talents.

To read more, click here.

Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties

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Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties believes that every moment of life is precious and we are dedicated to providing patients with life limiting illnesses and our community with the best medical, spiritual, and grief support.

THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME

Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties services makes staying at home possible.  We provide compassionate care to our patients in their private homes, extended care and assisted living facilities. We also offer the comforts and healing hospitality of Lorelei’s Place, our Hospice House located less than a mile away from the Atrium Medical Center.

Call for more information:

513.422-0300

800.653.4490

 

Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties

5940 Long Meadow Drive

Franklin, Ohio 45005

 

EASING PAIN

LIFTING SPIRITS

Dealing with the anxiety and the physical and emotional pain associated with a life threatening illness is not something you have to go through alone.  We are the leading experts in managing pain and easing anxiety by providing the very best care, support and comfort for you and your family.

DELIVERING PEACE OF MIND

Illness can place overwhelming stress on family and loved ones.  Our support team can help patients and families with medical decisions, treatment options, and can help coordinate care so that patients and families can focus on enjoying every possible moment.

Patients and families receive care from our team of professionals who provide superior care and innovative services to meet the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of our patients and their families.  We emphasize compassion, dignity, privacy and respect when it matters most.

The cost of hospice care can be covered in many ways including through Medicare, Medicaid, managed care providers and some private insurers.  However, as a non-profit community hospice, we will care for you regardless of your ability to pay.

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE

Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties provides the very best personalized and compassionate care and support.

  • Pain management
  • Symptom control

Care when and where you need it

  • 24/7 access to medical care
  • 24/7 phone assistance
  • 24/7 crisis care

Providing comfort and peace of mind

  • Care coordination from one setting to another (home, hospital, etc.)
  • Regular assistance with daily activities (bathing, cleaning, etc.)
  • Caregiving tips and education

Meeting the emotional, physical, and spiritual needs of patients and families

  • Group and individual grief support
  • Complementary therapies like massage, music and occupational therapies
  • Spiritual support and comfort

Volunteer Support

In addition to the expertise of our outstanding staff, Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties has the support of hundreds of trained volunteers who can help with life’s little things, from housekeeping and cooking to transportation to the doctor’s office.  Respite care is also among our services, allowing family caregivers to take a needed break from providing moment-by-moment care for their loved one.

R.J.’s Story

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R.J. and Ada Neace shared a childhood crush, a teenage romance and 44 years of marriage.  It was a childhood romance that would never end.

R.J. was born in Kentucky, one of six children.  He and Ada made Medway, Ohio their home.  R.J. had a career and retired from the Teamsters Union.  He and Ada raised two sons and celebrated the births of two granddaughters before R.J. faced health challenges that reached the point where his doctor asked if he wanted to be placed on a respirator. The couple faced a choice and a life chapter that brought them to Hospice of Dayton.  R.J. received care in the home he and Ada shared, saving R.J. from worrying about Ada driving home alone from the hospital after dark.    R.J. was a loving husband, father and grandfather who is truly missed by his family

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