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Six Needs Of Mourning For Children Who Are Grieving

BY MARY GAMAGE MSW, LSW


Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D discusses mourning needs for children who have suffered a significant loss.  These mourning needs can help children heal through their journey of grief.

Need 1:  Accept the Death

The first mourning need is to accept the death.  It’s difficult for any child to accept that their loved one is gone and their life will be forever changed.  Children may try to imagine that the loss never really happened; this is okay and perfectly normal. Eventually, with time and support from trusting adults in their life, children will learn to accept this difficult loss.

Need 2:  Feel the Sadness

The second mourning need of the child is the need to feel the sadness.  Children do not have to feel sad all the time because quite frankly, it isn’t very much fun to feel sad.  We need to allow and encourage children to have fun and let them feel good!  As caring adults, we need to make ourselves available to children when they do have their sad moments.

Need 3:  Remember the Person

The third mourning need is to remember the person who died.  As adults, we need to encourage children to talk about the person who died, share memories, and look at pictures.

Need 4:  Accept that Life is Different Now

The fourth mourning need has to do with helping children accept that their life is different now.  Their life has changed and so has their family.  Their life will never be the same again, but that doesn’t mean that they will never be happy again.

Need 5:  Think About why it Happened:

The fifth mourning need encourages children to think about why this loss happened.  This is a very difficult question to answer, especially for a child.  Talking to a trusted adult about the “why’s” in life can help a child “make sense” of their loss.

Need 6:  Allow Others to Help the Child:

The sixth mourning need has to do with allowing others to help the child who has suffered a loss:  now and always!  It’s important for children to have adults in their life that they can trust and who are always there for them, no matter what.  The process of grief is hard work; that is why it’s important to have people who are supportive to help us through it.  We need to let children know that it is okay to ask for help.

For information on Grief Support for Youth, please click here

Daisy Award Announced

First DAISY Award Presented to Gail Satterthwaite

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Hospice of Dayton presented the DAISY Award for nursing to Gail Satterthwaite on Tuesday, November 12, in recognition of her extraordinary care for patients.

The nomination, submitted by a family member of a hospice patient, cited Gail as a “true Guardian Angel in our lives.” “Gail treated our mother as I am sure she treats members of her own family. The love she shared for and with our mom filled the room when Gail entered. She made sure all of us know what to expect from the beginning of Mom’s journey to the very end. She was compassionate and honest, even when the information she shared was not something anyone wants to hear about their loved one.” The DAISY Award for Extraordinary Nurses is a national program recognizing the very special work nurses do every day. It was established by the DAISY Foundation – an organization for the elimination of diseases attacking the immune system – in memory of J. Patrick Barnes. Barnes’ parents established the foundation in their son’s memory because they had experienced firsthand the skills and compassionate care of many nurses. The award is given quarterly at Hospice of Dayton in recognition of nurses who exemplify the values and mission of Hospice of Dayton. Gail has been a member of the Hospice of Dayton staff for 23 years providing care for patients in their homes.

 

 

I am Hospice of Dayton

 

Craig Turner, STNA, 

CHPNA, joined the Hospice of Dayton staff in 2007 as an STNA for Coming Home.  In 2012 he became the PCS Excellence Mentor.

 

Why do you choose to work at hospice and why do you believe in our mission? 

I chose to work at Hospice of Dayton because there is no other time in a person’s life that they require and deserve the best care.  There are few areas of healthcare that allow caregivers to minister to the whole family as well as the patient.  Every single staff member has a share in our mission that allows us to serve something greater than ourselves.

 

Share your story and tell us what makes you believe “I am Hospice of Dayton”?

One of the greatest encounters I’ve ever had was with a stranger in the middle of the grocery store.  She thanked me for what I do and she told me her Hospice story with tears in her eyes.  She told me how Hospice of Dayton came into her home and gave her husband such good care when he died.  When I asked her how long it had been since he passed she replied, “twenty-one years.”  It made me realize that the difference we make will be remembered decades later.  It is a great responsibility but at the same time a great opportunity.  It also demonstrated that as a Hospice of Dayton team member I also get to be part of a 35 year legacy. That is why I Am Hospice of Dayton.

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