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Care partners at Hospice of Dayton and Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties go above and beyond to invest in each patient and consider his or her time with us to be a celebration of life. It’s our goal to help you cement your loved one’s legacy by embracing his or her life story and presenting it to others. Please, share your loved one’s life story with us today. We believe that illustrating life’s stories provides peace of mind for families while strengthening our community.  Contact 937-256-4490 ext. 4409 or fill out the form below to share your story today.

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Eric & David’s Story – A Walk To Remember

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by Chaplain Eric Holley

This story is about two men who found each other through their acts of service, one for his country the other for his fellow man.

In the 1960′s David joined the U.S. Marines Corps while I, as a first grader,  answered a questionnaire indicating I wanted to be a minister. In September of  2011 our individual walks brought us together as we met at the Dayton International Airport to board a flight to Washington D.C. together.  We were part of the Honor Flight, which enables veterans to visit Washington D.C. monuments honoring their service.  On that early Friday morning we boarded, David was the only Vietnam veteran among 34 former soldiers. I was serving as a hospice chaplain and escort on the trip.  David was decked out in his Marine Corps shirt and hat, and was presented an Honor Flight T-shirt to wear for the day. David had never been to D.C., much less viewed the memorials.  He expressed mixed emotions about seeing the wall for the first time. I assured David I would be with him the whole way.

Our plane touched down at the Baltimore Airport and we boarded a bus to D.C.  Our first stop was the WW II memorial where David had his picture taken by the Ohio name plate. We took several photos of inscriptions on walls & decorations at the memorial. I took a break and when I looked around David had stepped out of his wheelchair and crossed two streets in an effort to get closer to the Jefferson Memorial. He laughed uncontrollably when I caught up with him & threatened to put him on a leash. We boarded the bus and traveled to the Iwo Jima memorial. This Marine swelled with pride as he stood beside the Marine Corps insignia as I took several photos of him with the memorial in the background. We then boarded the bus & drove to the Air Force memorial for lunch. We stood at the memorial in awe, looking at our nation’s capital and for the first time seeing sites we had previously only seen on T.V.  Just then I saw my Marine looking off to the left at a portion of the National Cemetery. This happened to be the section where several African American soldiers were buried in unmarked graves. David knew the story and shared it with me. The sadness in his eyes and the look of betrayal by his own country was nearly too much to bear.

We then boarded the bus and made our way to the Vietnam Memorial.  Anxiety had reached its apex in David’s mind by this time and everyone else on the bus shared the sense that “This is his memorial.”  We exited the bus and David sat in his wheelchair.  A nurse accompanied us to capture the visit on camera. Our first stop was a station containing what appeared to be a combined phone-book of L.A. & New York city when in fact it was an alphabetical list of those who sacrificed their all for their country. Tears began to fall as we looked for David’s friend, but could not find him because nick-names are not recorded. We turned and walked to the entrance where three soldiers in jungle gear were immortalized. I snapped a shot of David in front of the three statues and had he been dressed in his jungle gear he could have been the fourth man in the memorial.  Then we headed for “The Wall.”

 As we approached the ramp leading down to the wall on our left David softly said, “Oh my God!” This was it, David’s first time at the wall viewing the names of his fallen brothers.  A flood of emotions overwhelmed him. David began to cry so I placed my hands on his shoulders & encouraged him saying, “You’re doing great Marine. You’re doing great.” As we approached the half way point David asked me to stop. He stood himself up unassisted, placed his left hand on the wall and wept. I was overwhelmed as I watched this weakened man have an unparalleled experience standing on his own, unassisted, connecting emotionally & spiritually with the some of the soldiers he served with some 40 years ago. I was focused on being with David in several ways & then I noticed many others were with David as well. The sound of camera clicks & flashes were heard all around him.

David sat down in his wheelchair & said, “I’m ready” and we began making our way up the ramp of the east wall.  We were nearly at the end when a man & his wife stopped us. The man reached out his right hand to David and said, “Welcome home Marine, welcome home.” The man’s wife knelt down in front of David looking him in the eyes & said, “Thank you for all you’ve done for this country.” 

Upon exiting the plane on our return flight to Dayton we were greeted by a line of active Air Force men & women in uniform welcoming us home.  An atmosphere of humility settled on each veteran & many of them became a puddle of tears as they were overwhelmed with the crowd of well wishers congratulating them & thanking them. Several people sought out David as if they knew he was the only Vietnam vet & lavished their appreciation on him. A local ROTC unit was standing at attention holding the flags of the United States, the State of Ohio, & the Marine Corps & just when we thought it couldn’t get any better, an announcement came over the sound system indicating the colors will now be presented as we recite the pledge of allegiance. I watched men who had previously been unable to walk force themselves to stand, place their hands over their hearts, & with pride & through tears say, “I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America. And to the republic for which it stands. One nation, under God, indivisible, with liberty & justice for all.” No more could be said to describe the pride & humility present simultaneously.

 I couldn’t seem to stop myself from asking David, “Was this a good trip for you or did it stir up too many hurtful memories?” Without hesitation David said, “Oh no! This was great. Seeing the memorials, having strangers thank me & welcome me home has brought me closure that I never had or ever thought I’d find. No, no, this was a trip I’ll never, ever forget.”

It was a trip I will never forget either.

A Tribute To My Mother

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Linda J. Wise Jones

October 24, 1940 – February 18, 2012

Linda was a life-long resident of Dayton, Ohio and a woman of many talents and passions.  Among them were her love of horses, dogs, sewing and gardening (especially her roses).  Her passion for horses began as a young girl and she would tell stories of riding her horses on Main Street (Route 48) to her friends’ homes to visit.  She started the Old National Trail Riding Center at the Englewood Park in the late 1970′s. I am the oldest of five children and she had me on horseback by the time I was 8 years of age.  She had to quit riding in her early 40′s due to a fall off her last horse.  She had been an avid sewer for as long as I can remember.  She had great fun in making dresses for my sisters, her granddaughters, me and all of our dolls.  She took great pride in sewing and tailoring her own clothes as well.  Her passion for gardening was beyond belief. She loved flowers, most especially roses, and would share her bounty with everyone. In her fifties, she went back to college and got her nursing degree, graduating with honors. She then proceeded to open and operate a 13 person assisted living home. One of her favorite fun things to do was to go the river boats and pull the one arm bandits (slot machines) with Harold, her husband, and her parents, Leon and Katie.  She had a fabulous sense of humor which is one of the many things I will miss about her.  She was a young 71 when she passed but over the last 5 years or so had many health issues.  She was a fighter and fought as long as she could.  Hospice of Dayton made the final process of her life a caring, comfortable, and peaceful transition. She is no longer suffering nor in pain. I and my family will always be thankful that Hospice of Dayton is there to provide this to patients and their families.  

Submitted by daughter Susan Vahle                                                      

 

Run the Air Force Marathon with the Hospice of Dayton Team and Run With Purpose!

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Saturday, September 15, 2012
Wright Patterson Air Force Base

Hospice of Dayton has proudly partnered with the United States Air Force as a charity partner at the 2012 USAF Marathon. Join the HOD Team and Run With Purpose!

HOD Team members commit to raising a minimum of $500 for Hospice of Dayton. Once this fundraising minimum is met, HOD will secure your place on our team.

As a HOD Team member, you will receive the following:

  • One registration in either the half or full marathon
  • One ticket to either the Gourmet Pasta Dinner or the Breakfast of Champions
  • An official Air Force Marathon tech shirt
  • An HOD T-Shirt
  • An HOD water bottle
  • Use of HOD Hospitality Tent before and after the race (amenities include fruit, snacks, water, sports drinks, massage)

We currently have openings for both the full and the half marathon.

 Please download both forms below for more information and to register as a HOD runner. Completed forms may be submitted via email to mbernard@hospiceofdayton.org, or mailed to:

Hospice of Dayton
Attn: USAF Marathon
324 Wilmington Pike
Dayton OH 45420

Registration Forms:
USAF Marathon Runner Agreement – USAF
USAF Marathon Runner Agreement – HOD

To make a donation on behalf of an HOD Team runner, download the Donation Form below:

USAF Marathon Donor Form

Registration deadline is July 9, 2012.

Contact Amanda Burks, Director, Community Outreach and Special Events at aburks@hospiceofdayton.org or call 937.312.4641 with question.

For more information about the Air Force Marathon, please visit www.usafmarathon.com.

Tom Hand Composes Song for Hospice of Dayton

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“Theme for the Hospice of Dayton” is the name of a song created by Tom Hand and will be part of his first CD, “From Mind to Hand” with 15 other original compositions.

Tom became a volunteer in 2011. He has played the piano for over 50 years. He plays and sings a very wide range of music including, classical, blues, rock, ragtime, folk, ballads, new age, country, gospel and swing. He is an engaging and fun entertainer with a comedic wit, great voice, and impressive keyboard skills.

“I’m just the Thursday Night Piano guy,” said Tom with a twinkle in his eyes as he reflects on
playing the grand piano in the Great Room each  Thursday.

Tom has been instrumental in securing two new grand pianos, one for the Great Room and one for the new Shaw lower level atrium. As a result, the holidays will have wonderful piano music in two areas now. He is semi-retired from the facility management profession, giving him more time to share his music and entertain at different venues.

Curtis’ Story

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When asked, Curtis Blair tells you what he wants people to say about him. “I want them to know that I never gave up.” he says with a smile, “I want people to know that I am a strong person and a nice guy.”

It’s easy to say all of those things about Curtis. He is 23-years old and a patient of Hospice of Dayton. Curtis has Muscular Dystrophy, diagnosed when he was two years old. Curtis lived at home and attended school until he was 15. At that point difficulty breathing became a serious problem. As the disease progressed, his mother became unable to care for him in their home and he was moved to a nursing home. He is now on oxygen for all but very brief periods of time.

Not long ago, Curtis got to take a trip outside of his room. Having been bed-bound for years, he had not been able to enjoy the out-of-doors. On a beautiful summer day, the occupational therapists from Hospice of Dayton arranged to move his bed and oxygen outside for awhile. The way Curtis described it was that “it must feel like what a convict would feel like when he is set free. ” He took in the warmth of the sun, the blue of the sky, the sweet earthy smells and the breeze on his skin. That brings us to another thing Curtis wants people to know. “Don’t take anything for granted,” Curtis says.

But Curtis also says the last thing he wants is for people to feel sorry for him. Despite the many obstacles he has encountered, Curtis has achieved a great many dreams and touched many lives. With help from a hospice volunteer, Curtis has written a book that is now in the hands of a publisher. When asked what it’s about, Curtis says simply, “it’s a book about a boy that struggled.” He talks about writing another book and dedicating it to his heroes in World Wrestling Entertainment. Curtis has twice been their guest at the Nutter Center in Dayton, with WWE performers posing for pictures with him, signing autographs, giving him gifts and insisting he be photographed by the ring on the stage with them. He prizes the mask that one of the WWE stars handed him. They were as big in person, he says, as he expected them to be. But when they talked with him, he said, some had tears in their eyes. Some of them may have been thinking that Curtis is the strongest man they ever met.

 

Bud’s Story

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Bud Weller, World War II Veteran, served in the Pacific as the Second World War came to an end. “I was in basic training when they declared peace,” Bud recalls. His first assignment, however, was a glimpse into the horror to the war that had just ended. He was among the first soldiers stationed in Hiroshima following the bombings that ended the war. “The only things standing were the concrete buildings that were reinforced with steel,” Bud remembers. “Everything on the mountain outside the city was burnt halfway up.”

Bud served as a staff car driver while in the Army and became a mechanic after he was discharged. Bud was one of three Hospice of Dayton patients who boarded a plane in 2009 to revisit their past through Honor Fight, a program designed to transport veterans to Washington, D.C. to visit and reflect at the memorials dedicated to honor their service and sacrifice. It was his first trip to D.C. and the monuments that pay tribute to he and other soldiers that served in World War II, and a cherished memory.

The Art & Science of Healing Strategies for Veterans

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As part of Hospice of Dayton’s American Pride veteran care program, area healthcare professionals, veteran’s service organizations and faith communities are invited to attend an educational program on “Veteran’s PTSD – Exploring the Art & Science of Healing Strategies at End-of-Life.” The program is presented in collaboration with the Dayton VA Medical Center and provides CEU credits for healthcare professionals. The goal is to prepare caregivers and supporters to deliver appropriate interventions to veterans suffering from PTSD at end-of-life.

Keynote speaker Wayne Muller is a chaplain, bestselling author and founder and president of Bread for the Journey, a national charity based in Santa Fe that serves the under-privileged. He is a regular contributor to Forbes magazine and has worked as a Senior Scholar for the Fetzer Institute. His address will focus on “Honoring Our Stories.” He will also lead a session on “Holistic and Complementary Interventions for Veterans and Caregivers.”

Edgardo Padin-Rivera, a psychologist with the Cleveland VAMC, has presented widely on the topic of PTSD and will address “Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome & End-of-Life Concerns” as well as “Evidenced Based Psychotherapies for PTSD.”

The program also includes a presentation by Kenny Carnes, actor and storyteller, who holds a Master of Arts degree in Holistic Counseling and has ten years of leadership experience as an army officer, corporate consultant and small business owner. His “Pieces of War” presentation involves storytelling about the veteran experience. He will also lead discussion on “Psychosocial & Emotional Aspects of PTSD: Processing Psychodrama.

The program is scheduled for Tuesday, November 8 at the Hope Hotel and Conference Center, Wright Patterson Air Force Base. Registration is available on-line at www.hospiceofdayton.org or by contacting dclark@hospiceofdayton.org. A fee of $50 includes CEUs, materials, continental breakfast, lunch and snacks. Additional information is also available by contacting the Hospice of Dayton Education and Staff Development office, 937-256-4490, ext. 1102.

 

Shining Star – Conger Earns Cameo of Caring Honors

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Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties Team Manager Jessica Conger was honored as a Cameo of Caring recipient on October 15, 2011 at the Wright State University School of Nursing.   “Jessica shows her compassion and professionalism in every encounter she has with our patients and families,” her nomination notes.  “No matter how difficult or busy a day, Jessica always wears a smile and makes patients and families feel at ease.”

“As an example, we had a patient here on the unit who loved nature. We have an outdoor patio surrounded by flowers, and trees. The patient could look out his window and see the beauty outside, but a dying wish was to be with nature when he died. Jessica, by speaking with his family, discovered this wish.  She took it upon herself, with the help of staff members, to transport his bed outside on the patio near the garden. It was a beautiful, sunny day and with his family at his side, he took his last breath. This is only one instance where Jessica’s focus on making a patient or family’s experience here at our unit a lasting and loving memory.

Not only does Jessica go the extra mile for her patients, she extends her care and thoughtfulness to her fellow staff members and is an outstanding teacher and coach. Jessica is the one called upon to train new nurses. Her computer skills coupled with her strong clinical skills and ability to communicate effectively has made her an invaluable asset to Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties.

Jessica, with her enthusiasm, professionalism and warmth, has been instrumental in helping to create a refuge for patients and families, enabling them to share precious last days in peace and comfort.”

R.J.’s Story

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R.J. and Ada Neace shared a childhood crush, a teenage romance and 44 years of marriage.  It was a childhood romance that would never end.

R.J. was born in Kentucky, one of six children.  He and Ada made Medway, Ohio their home.  R.J. had a career and retired from the Teamsters Union.  He and Ada raised two sons and celebrated the births of two granddaughters before R.J. faced health challenges that reached the point where his doctor asked if he wanted to be placed on a respirator. The couple faced a choice and a life chapter that brought them to Hospice of Dayton.  R.J. received care in the home he and Ada shared, saving R.J. from worrying about Ada driving home alone from the hospital after dark.    R.J. was a loving husband, father and grandfather who is truly missed by his family